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The 12 Step Divorce Recovery Program With Karen McMahon

Katherine Miller — Fri, 11 Mar 2022 15:44:25 +0000

EP: 172

Karen McMahon

The 12 Step Divorce Recovery Program

Divorce Dialogues · The 12 Step Divorce Recovery Program With Karen McMahon

No matter if the decision to divorce was yours or not, when a marriage ends, everyone involved suffers. With emotions at their peak, it is easy to be hijacked by the conflict trap and lose focus on what is important. But there is another way.

Karen McMahon is a Certified Relationship and Divorce Coach and Founder of Journey Beyond Divorce . Karen leads a team of divorce coaches in supporting men and women around the world to become calm, clear, and confident as they navigate divorce. Karen is the co-author of Stepping out of Chaos: Turning Pain to Possibility and co-creator of JBD’s exclusive 12 Step Divorce Recovery Program.

On this episode of the podcast, Karen joins Katherine to share the key components of the 12 Step Divorce Recovery Program. She walks us through a few of the steps, describing in detail the emotional healing available to program participants. Listen in for Karen’s insight into how the 12 Step Divorce Recovery Program can help you do the self-work to emerge from your divorce a more refined version of yourself, ready to step into your new story.

Topics Covered

What the 12 Step Divorce Recovery Program is based on

The typical challenges we all face in divorce
How step 1 and step 2 of the program help create emotional healing

What it looks like to curb the conflict in divorce so you can make proactive, constructive decisions
Why people resist healing the heart

The key to regaining control in any situation

How looking at your story differently is the catalyst for change

Why each step in the 12 step program plays a part in navigating a calm, clear, confident divorce

Why step 9 (overcome pain) is most important for moving ahead

How tuning into your intuitive knowing can help you make better decisions for the life you want

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Journey Beyond Divorce

Journey Beyond Divorce on Facebook

Journey Beyond Divorce on Twitter

Journey Beyond Divorce Podcast

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How to Transform Your Self-Esteem After a Divorce With Carol Davidson

Katherine Miller — Fri, 28 Jan 2022 17:39:34 +0000

EP: 169

Carol Davidson

How to Transform Your Self-Esteem After a Divorce

Divorce Dialogues · How to Transform Your Self-Esteem After a Divorce With Carol Davidson

Divorce can be extremely depleting and a time where most people find their self esteem to be at its lowest. Though, it can also be an opportunity to become the best version of ourselves. So, how can we get back to feeling good for ourselves after a divorce?

Carol Davidson is a seasoned and certified image consultant, life coach, speaker, and educator who has helped thousands of people over the last 20 years to transform their appearance, wardrobe and self-esteem. She consults with private and corporate clients worldwide, offering a full suite of image consulting, personal styling, and life coaching services.

On this episode of Divorce Dialogues, Carol joins Katherine to share her tips and tools to not only become comfortable and confident in your own skin. She explains what image consulting is and how clothing has the power to impact how you feel about yourself, affecting your moods, confidence and performance. Listen in for Carole’s insight on how to look and feel your best inside and out, even after a divorce.

Topics Covered

What an image consultant does and why people seek out for one

How your inside can impact your outside and vise versa

How Carol got into image consulting

Tools that Carol uses when helping clients transform how they feel inside and out

Why image consulting doesn’t involve a “makeover”

How to get started in building your confidence following a divorce

Signs that it’s time to get an image consultant

The differences between an Image Consultant VS a Personal Stylist

Tips for a wardrobe refresh post divorce

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Carol Davidson

Carol Davidson on Facebook

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Creating a New Identity After Divorce With Christine Pittman

Katherine Miller — Fri, 08 Oct 2021 14:59:38 +0000

EP: 161

Christine Pittman

Creating a New Identity After Divorce

For most stay-at-home parents, identity gets wrapped up in their kids. So, what happens when they divorce? How do former stay-at-home moms and dads figure out who they are on their own?

Christine Pittman is the Founder of Cook the Story, one of the top-ranked food blogs in the world. She moved from Canada to the US in 2010 with her now ex-husband and started her food blog as a hobby while she was a stay-at-home mom. In the divorce process, Christine grew the blog into a thriving business, and today, her recipes reach 2M-plus monthly readers, helping them spend less time in the kitchen and more time at the table.

On this episode of the podcast, Christine joins Katherine to share her experience in the adjustment period after divorce and describe how building Cook the Story supported her in the process of divorce recovery. She offers advice on letting go of control when your kids are with your ex, challenging us to pick our battles and model good behaviors for our children. Listen in for insight on introducing a new partner to your kids and learn how to look at divorce as an opportunity to discover who you are and what you want out of life!

Topics Covered

How Christine’s food blog became a full-time business through her divorce

Leveraging creative pursuits to support the process of divorce recovery

Christine’s experience with figuring out who she was on her own in the adjustment period after divorce

Christine’s advice around letting go of control when your kids are with your ex

Why Christine suggests picking your battles with your ex

How Christine thinks about modeling good behaviors for her children

Why Christine’s new partner avoids disciplining her children

How Christine and her ex-husband are working to be on the same page when it comes to discipline

How Christine, her new partner and her ex-husband navigate holidays

Christine’s insight on how divorce can be an opportunity for self-discovery

Connect with Christine Pittman

Cook the Story

Cook the Story on Facebook

Cook the Story on Instagram

The Time Management Insider Podcast

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A Path To Happiness After Midlife Divorce With Diane Burroughs

Katherine Miller — Fri, 02 Jul 2021 18:42:08 +0000

EP: 154

Diane Burroughs

A Path To Happiness After Midlife Divorce

Divorce Dialogues · A Path To Happiness After Midlife Divorce With Diane BurroughsAfter 24 years of marriage, Diane’s husband – who also happened to be her colleague as a sitcom writer- left her for another, younger woman. Frustrated and alone, she sought resources to ease her pain and found refuge in books and blogs. However, recognizing that very little literature spoke to her directly – as a woman over 50 – Diane began using her unique voice to connect with other women through her blog – Left at 50, and later went on to publish a book titled Restarting Your Life When You Are No Longer A Wife. In this podcast explore what doubts and fears keep women physically, psychologically, and emotionally trapped after divorce. Learn how single women after fifty can rebuild their lives on their own terms!

Diane Burroughs is the author of: Restarting Your Life When You Are No Longer a Wife: One gal’s tale of humor, tears, and hope after being Left at 50 and owner of the blog leftatfifty.com. Diane helps women facing midlife divorce by learning how to take care of themselves and embrace their new identity as a single woman after fifty.

On this episode of Divorce Dialogues, Diane joins Katherine to uncover strategies for rebuilding a life after divorce in midlife. She introduces the Doubt Monster – explaining how doubt can creep in and what to do about it. Listen in for Diane’s insights on how to rebound from being lost in “couple identity” and rebuild your individual self to be stronger, happier, more creative, and more action-oriented.

Topics Covered

What inspired Diane to write about restarting life after age 50.

What it is like to work with your ex-husband, and how to set appropriate boundaries.

Why developing creative outlets is important for self-discovery.

What the Doubt Monster is and how to deal with it.

Diane’s advice for “gray divorcees.”

How to take care of yourself after a major setback like divorce.

How being a “do-er” can benefit you when going through a major life change.

Why taking care of yourself needs to begin now.

How to cope if you have to see your cheating ex-husband every day.

How to get your ex-husband to move out.

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Leftat50.com blog

Diane on LinkedIn

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Divorce Dialogues · Resolve Post-divorce Conflict With Mediation with Erik Wheeler

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Resolve Post-divorce Conflict With Mediation with Erik Wheeler

Katherine Miller — Thu, 20 May 2021 15:05:13 +0000

EP: 151

Erik Wheeler

Resolve Post-divorce Conflict With Mediation

Even if you craft the perfect divorce agreement, disputes still arise post-divorce. As circumstances change, conflicts come up. So, what should you do when you and your ex disagree? How might you leverage mediation to resolve those conflicts with less frustration and resentment?

Erik Wheeler is the Founder and Family Mediator at Accord Mediation, a practice out of Burlington, Vermont, that specializes in divorce and post-divorce mediation. Erik uses conflict resolution and divorce mediation to help couples navigate disagreements around parenting schedules, custody and finances. Erik is also the co-creator of Divorce Peacefully, a webinar designed to educate divorcing couples about the alternatives to litigation—mediation and collaborative divorce.

On this episode of Divorce Dialogues, Erik joins Katherine to discuss the most common conflicts that come up after a divorce, explaining why it’s crucial to get granular on the details of your parenting agreement. He describes how a mediator can help facilitate difficult discussions and shares his approach to resolving conflicts like who will claim the children on their taxes and how to split your kid’s expenses. Listen in for Erik’s insight on the challenges that come up when one parent relocates and learn how mediation can help you and your ex find solutions that work well for your family’s future.

Topics Covered

Erik’s insight on the kinds of conflict that come up after a divorce

Why it’s crucial for divorcing couples to get specific on the details of their parenting agreement

How the introduction of new partners can exacerbate conflict in divorced couples

How a mediator helps facilitate difficult discussions by focusing on interests vs. positions

What makes mediation a better option than litigation in finding solutions that work well for your family

How to resolve conflicts around who will claim the children on taxes

The challenges that come up when one parent relocates

Erik’s approach to conflicts around splitting your kid’s expenses (including tuition)

Why Erik suggests going to mediation as soon as a conflict arises

Connect with Erik Wheeler

Accord Mediation

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What You Need to Know About Dating After Divorce with Alyssa Dineen

Katherine Miller — Fri, 12 Mar 2021 17:19:21 +0000

EP: 146

Alyssa Dineen

What You Need to Know About Dating After Divorce

Divorce Dialogues · What You Need to Know About Dating After Divorce with Alyssa Dineen

Dating after divorce is intimidating, especially for those of us who never dreamed we’d be looking for love online. So, how do you know when you’re ready to get back into the dating scene? How do you choose the right app? And how do you build a profile that reflects the best version of you?

Alyssa Dineen is the dating coach and personal stylist behind Style My Profile, a consulting agency that helps clients feel better about online dating. Style My Profile is a first-of-its-kind service that offers 1:1 profile help and wardrobe consultation as well as a Mindful Dating Workshop and Membership Program. Alyssa’s has 20-plus years of styling expertise, and her work has been featured on the Today Show, NBC and The New York Times, among many other national media outlets.

On this episode of the podcast, Alyssa joins Katherine to discuss dating after divorce, encouraging us to look at online dating as a language we can pick up with a little practice. She explains why staying in an unhappy marriage is not good for anyone (including your kids) and challenges us to make sure we’re ready to date before we go online. Listen in for Alyssa’s insight on choosing the right dating app for you and get her top tips for putting together an intentional, creative online dating profile.

Topics Covered

Why staying in an unhappy marriage is not good for anyone (including your kids)

How to get past feeling intimidated about dating after a divorce

The importance of modeling a happy, functional relationship for your children

Alyssa’s take on online dating as a new language that you can pick up with practice

How to find the right dating app for you based on age, lifestyle and where you live

Alyssa’s argument for online dating vs. meeting someone in real life

Alyssa’s advice around making sure you’re ready to date again before you create a profile

Why it’s crucial to put effort and creativity into your profile pictures and bio

Why casual photos of you doing things in real life are better than studio shots

How Alyssa serves clients who need support with online dating

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Style My Profile

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The New Yorker’s Guide to Collaborative Divorce by Katherine Miller

Alyssa on Divorce Dialogues EP099

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Alyssa’s 12-Week Mindful Dating Webinar

Alyssa’s Dynamic Dating Membership Program

Match

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To Heal from Divorce, Move Through Your Grief with Whitney Boole

Katherine Miller — Thu, 24 Sep 2020 11:00:24 +0000

EP: 134

Whitney Boole

To Heal from Divorce, Move Through Your Grief

Divorce Dialogues · To Heal from Divorce, Move Through Your Grief with Whitney Boole

Do you feel stuck in the pain of divorce? Are you having a hard time moving on? Like any other loss, divorce triggers the grief process. And you have to move through the stages of grief if you want to heal.

Whitney Boole is the licensed marriage and family therapist behind Beach Cities Psychotherapy, a private practice based in Hermosa Beach, California, where she specializes in trauma, codependency, relationship issues, parenting and grief and loss. Whitney is also the author of You Got This: Healing Through Divorce and the creator of Heal Through Divorce, a platform designed to empower people through the divorce process and offer them the therapeutic tools for healing.

On this episode of Divorce Dialogue, Whitney joins Katherine to share her own experience of loneliness in divorce, describing the journey of self-discovery that helped her move through the pain and take advantage of the opportunity for transformation. She explains why it’s crucial to lean into self-care during the divorce process and introduces us to breathing techniques for harnessing our fear in challenging circumstances. Listen in for Whitney’s insight on renegotiating relationships with friends and family when a marriage ends and learn how to navigate the stages of grief and heal through divorce.

Topics Covered

How Whitney’s experience of loneliness in divorce inspired You Got This

Whitney’s insight on renegotiating friendships in the aftermath of divorce

The grief involved when our relationships with our former in-laws change

The danger in dating before you’ve moved through the pain and grief of divorce

Who would benefit most from reading You Got This

Whitney’s advice on leaning into self-care as you begin the divorce process

Whitney’s guidance around choosing a divorce lawyer carefully

Using breathing techniques to harness your fear and be less reactive

The opportunity for healing, transformation and growth that comes from divorce

Understanding that your ex’s infidelity is not a reflection on your worth

Connect with Whitney Boole

Heal Through Divorce

Whitney’s Website

You Got This Facebook Group

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The New Yorker’s Guide to Collaborative Divorce by Katherine Miller

You Got This: Healing Through Divorce by Whitney Boole

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Whitney’s Blog Post: Learn from My $500 Meltdown So You Don’t Have One Too

Whitney’s Conquering Divorce Grief Video Series

Whitney’s Blog Post: The Secrets Wounds of Infidelity—It’s Not Because You Weren’t Enough

Whitney’s Mastering ‘The Talk’ Program

Whitney’s Healing Through Divorce Transformational Coaching Experience

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Sell Your Stuff & Start Fresh After Divorce with Tiffany Ann Beverlin

Katherine Miller — Wed, 13 May 2020 01:00:33 +0000

EP: 125

Tiffany Ann Beverlin

Sell Your Stuff & Start Fresh After Divorce

KatherineMiller · Sell Your Stuff & Start Fresh After Divorce with Tiffany Ann Beverlin

It’s difficult enough to move forward with your life after a divorce. But it’s harder yet if you’re still surrounded by the furniture, jewelry, or art acquired during the marriage. Tiffany Ann Beverlin argues that it’s not necessarily healthy to live among the ashes of broken marriage when you’re trying to build a new life. But where can you go to sell those items and get a fair price? Are there options beyond eBay or the local pawn shop?

Tiffany Ann is the Founder and CEO of Dreams Recycled, an online marketplace that specializes in selling items from a divorce, including engagement rings, bedroom sets and wedding dresses. Dreams Recycled also serves as an educational platform and resource guide, and the site has been recognized as the #1 divorce community in the US. In addition to running Dreams Recycled, Tiffany is a Certified Life Coach, Divorce Expert and author of My Dreams Recycled.

On this episode, Tiffany Ann joins Katherine to explain how her own divorce inspired the creation of Dreams Recycled, sharing the challenge she faced in reentering the workforce after 10-plus years as a stay-at-home mom. She describes the trend toward living with less she has seen in her work, offering insight around how the money generated from selling marital items can facilitate a new beginning. Listen in for Tiffany Ann’s advice on fighting for what really matters in a divorce and learn how you can benefit from letting go of the material things acquired during a marriage that’s ended.

Topics Covered

How Tiffany Ann’s own divorce inspired the creation of Dreams Recycled

The challenge Tiffany Ann faced in reentering the workforce after a decade as a stay-at-home mom

What it takes to start your own business as a parent of three

The emotional relief associated with letting go of items like your engagement ring

How Tiffany Ann thinks about deciding what to keep and what to sell

The trend toward living with less that Tiffany Ann has seen in her work

Turning the money generated from selling marital items into a new beginning

The negativity and trauma that may be attached to jewelry

Tiffany Ann’s advice for couples considering or initiating the divorce process

When in doubt, take high road
Stand up for best interest of children
Know WHAT fighting for + WHO up against
Allow lawyer to act as buffer
Get informed re: divorce law your state

Connect with Tiffany Ann Beverlin

Dreams Recycled

Dreams Recycled on Facebook

Dreams Recycled on Instagram

Tiffany Ann on LinkedIn

Tiffany Ann on Twitter

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The New Yorker’s Guide to Collaborative Divorce by Katherine Miller