Dating After Divorce with Dr. Alexandra Solomon

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Dr. Alexandra Solomon

Dating After Divorce


If you’ve been out of the dating game for a while now, the landscape may seem like a brave new world. Dating apps offer endless possibilities—and overwhelm. Not to mention the fact that you are sorting through your own feelings after a divorce and working to reshape your very identity. It’s complicated to say the least.

Dr. Alexandra Solomon is a licensed clinical psychologist at The Family Institute at Northwestern University. She is regular blogger for Psychology Today and the author of Loving Bravely: Twenty Lessons of Self-Discovery to Help You Get the Love You Want. Dr. Solomon is a renowned speaker and media consultant on topics related to love, sex and marriage, and she has appeared on the Oprah Winfrey Network, The Today Show and NPR, among many others.

Dr. Solomon joins Katherine to discuss how dating has evolved in recent years with the emergence of apps geared to finding love. She explains why it’s important to work through the story of your marriage and focus on yourself before you return to the dating world. Dr. Solomon offers her best advice around dating after divorce, describing the value in processing these experiences on your own before you debrief with a friend. Listen in for Dr. Solomon’s take on sexual experiences that nurture connection as well as her view on casual sex for the newly single.

Topics Covered

The use of technology to find love

Dr. Solomon’s guidance around dating apps

  • No obligation to use
  • Slow and steady
  • Means to an end

How to cut through the ‘chorus of opinions’ and check in with yourself

How therapy can help you work through the story of your marriage

The risks around ‘getting stuck in the heartbreak’

Dr. Solomon’s tips for dating after divorce

  • Practice self-compassion
  • Process experience on your own

The natural tendency to look for a romantic partner and co-parent

Why it’s dangerous to think in terms of absolutes

Dr. Solomon’s insight on sexual experiences that nurture connection

Dr. Solomon’s take on casual sex for the newly single

Connect with Dr. Alexandra Solomon

Dr. Solomon’s Website

Resources

Loving Bravely: Twenty Lessons of Self-Discovery to Help You Get the Love You Want by Dr. Alexandra Solomon

Smart Dating Academy

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The Center for Understanding Conflict
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