Linda Schoonover Carley
Empowering Divorcing Couples to Communicate Through Mediation
The heightened emotions that come with divorce often lead to impulsive action. The brain shuts down and couples jump into litigation without considering the consequences—or the alternatives. But the court system takes their power away and hands all of the decisions over to a judge, and at the end of the day, everybody loses. How can we reestablish communication between these couples, empowering them to make decisions on their own?
Linda Schoonover Carley is a former family, dependency and juvenile judge with more than thirty years of experience as a judge, attorney and mediator. She is also the author of Divorce Made Simple, a no-nonsense guide that demonstrates her practical, holistic approach to avoiding the chaos of the court system. An Amazon Best Selling author and award-winning speaker, Linda uses storytelling to illustrate her passion for children and justice.
Today, Linda joins Katherine to discuss how couples make impulsive decisions around divorce without a clear understanding of the consequences. She explains the danger in shutting down communication and offers her approach to teaching couples to communicate again. Linda speaks to the mediation process, describing how it empowers people to make decisions themselves and how to prepare for the mediation process. Listen in to understand why litigation makes couples lose sight of what’s important and learn to leverage alternatives like mediation and collaborative divorce.
How couples make impulsive decisions around divorce based on emotion
The natural instinct to shut down communication in the divorce process
How shutting down communication escalates turmoil for the children
Linda’s approach to teaching couples to communicate again
Why couples lose sight of what’s important during the litigation process
How mediation starts with the practice of finding agreement
How the parents’ relationship impacts a child’s idea of conflict resolution
How mediation empowers people to make decisions themselves
How to prepare for the mediation process
- Issues had during marriage will show up in mediation
- Make list of issues, rank in order of importance
- Come in with an understanding of financial needs
How children can serve as an anchor for the mediation process
The fundamentals of time sharing or shared parental responsibility
The difference between child support and alimony
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