The Blueprint for a Better Divorce With Paulette Rigo

Katherine Miller — Fri, 05 Nov 2021 15:10:40 +0000

EP: 163

Paulette Rigo

The Blueprint for a Better Divorce

Divorce Dialogues · The Blueprint for a Better Divorce With Paulette Rigo

Technology makes it easy for divorcing couples to express their anger and frustration without thinking. They engage in text warfare and even post disparaging comments on social media.

But if the goal is to divorce with dignity, the way you communicate matters. So, what can you do to be less reactive and work through the entire process in a measured way?

Paulette Rigo is the founder of Better Divorce Academy, a platform dedicated to helping people create an optimal divorce experience. Paulette is also a Certified Divorce Coach, Mediator, Transition and Recovery Coach, Career Transition Specialist and author of the Amazon bestseller, Better Divorce Blueprint: Divorce Made Smoother, Easier and Better for You and Your Family.

On this episode of Divorce Dialogues, Paulette joins Katherine to explore the contemplation phase leading up to a divorce and explain how to decide whether divorce is right for you. She describes what a successful divorce looks like and offers insight into the most common mistakes women make in the early stages of divorce. Listen in for Paulette’s advice on choosing the right divorce process and learn how to communicate with your soon-to-be ex in a way that mitigates conflict and maintains your dignity.

Topics Covered

How to decide if divorce is right for you

What steps to take in the pre-divorce contemplation phase

Why Paulette’s own divorce turned into an 8-year litigated experience

What a successful divorce looks like

Conducting yourself in a way you feel good about throughout the divorce process

The common mistakes women make in the early stages of divorce

Why you should never send a text or post on social media when you’re angry

The BIFF strategy for communicating with a soon-to-be ex

The role trust plays in a successful mediation

How to choose the right divorce process

Connect with Paulette Rigo

Better Divorce Academy

Better Divorce Academy on Facebook

Paulette on Twitter

Connect with Katherine Miller

The Center for Understanding in Conflict

Miller Law Group

Katherine on LinkedIn

The New Yorker’s Guide to Collaborative Divorce by Katherine Miller

Email katherine@miller-law.com

Call (914) 862-7487

Resources

Better Divorce Blueprint: Divorce Made Smoother, Easier and Better for You and Your Family by Paulette Rodrigo

Thriving in Chaos Project Podcast

Bill Eddy

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Get Closure with Your Ex & Divorce with Dignity with Dr. Bonnie Eaker-Weil

Katherine Miller — Wed, 14 Aug 2019 01:00:58 +0000

EP: 105

Dr. Bonnie Eaker-Weil

Get Closure with Your Ex & Divorce with Dignity

To divorce with dignity, couples need closure. Until we’ve said goodbye to the relationship, we simply can’t let go of the blame and shame of the breakup and reach a peaceful resolution. But what does that look like? How can we work through the grief early on, so that we don’t end up having very expensive arguments in an attorney’s office?

A relationship expert with four decades in private practice, Dr. Bonnie Eaker-Weil is widely recognized as one of America’s best couples therapists. She is the bestselling author of several books, including Make Up, Don’t Break Up: Finding and Keeping Love for Singles and Couples and Adultery: The Forgivable Sin. Dr. Bonnie has appeared on Good Morning America, The Today Show and Oprah, and her work has been featured in The New York Times and New York Magazine, among many other publications.

On this episode, Dr. Bonnie joins Katherine to explain why it’s crucial to say goodbye to an old relationship before you can say hello to a new one and describe how children express what couples suppress in the divorce process. Dr. Bonnie also shares the top mistakes divorcing couples make, describing how she helps couples leave WITHOUT blame or shame. Listen in for Dr. Bonnie’s insight on getting closure when your ex won’t cooperate and learn why the temporary pain of an intentional goodbye is so much better than playing out the emotional battle in a lawyer’s office!