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Tax Implications in Divorce With Tatiana Tsoir

Katherine Miller — Fri, 22 Apr 2022 16:26:56 +0000

EP: 175

Tatiana Tsoir

Tax Implications in Divorce

Divorce Dialogues · Tax Implications in Divorce With Tatiana Tsoir

“In this world, nothing is certain except death and taxes.”—Benjamin Franklin

When you are getting divorced your taxes are probably not the first thing on your mind, but as Benjamin Franklin said in his famous quote taxes remain even when a marriage ends. Taxes are never an easy topic to discuss but there are many tax implications divorcing couples should address, especially if children or alimony are involved.

Tatiana Tsoir is an author, speaker, and visionary accountant. For over 15 years she’s worked with business owners to help them manage their money and their bottom line. Tatiana is also an experienced adviser on all the scenarios impacting the tax-related matters of divorce.

On this episode of the podcast, Tatiana joins Katherine to discuss when to bring up the issue of taxes in your divorce. She discusses the common misunderstanding about the child tax credit, the 529 plan, and strategies for both that can save both parties money.

Listen in for Tatiana’s insight into underutilized tax strategies for small business owner parents and the number one thing people who are divorcing should think about when they talk about their taxes.

Topics Covered

When the issue of taxes should be brought up in divorce

How to structure taxes to support both parents when children are involved

How a business-owning spouse can legally deduct alimony payments

How to employ tax strategies that will save both parties money

The key to making the child tax credit work for you and your spouse

How to avoid misunderstandings around the 529 education plan

Tatiana shares one of the most underutilized tax strategies of small business owner parents

Best practices for using a custodial Roth IRA account

When to start thinking about using tax strategies to increase education funding options

The first thing people who are divorcing should think about when discuss their taxes

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The 12 Step Divorce Recovery Program With Karen McMahon

Katherine Miller — Fri, 11 Mar 2022 15:44:25 +0000

EP: 172

Karen McMahon

The 12 Step Divorce Recovery Program

Divorce Dialogues · The 12 Step Divorce Recovery Program With Karen McMahon

No matter if the decision to divorce was yours or not, when a marriage ends, everyone involved suffers. With emotions at their peak, it is easy to be hijacked by the conflict trap and lose focus on what is important. But there is another way.

Karen McMahon is a Certified Relationship and Divorce Coach and Founder of Journey Beyond Divorce . Karen leads a team of divorce coaches in supporting men and women around the world to become calm, clear, and confident as they navigate divorce. Karen is the co-author of Stepping out of Chaos: Turning Pain to Possibility and co-creator of JBD’s exclusive 12 Step Divorce Recovery Program.

On this episode of the podcast, Karen joins Katherine to share the key components of the 12 Step Divorce Recovery Program. She walks us through a few of the steps, describing in detail the emotional healing available to program participants. Listen in for Karen’s insight into how the 12 Step Divorce Recovery Program can help you do the self-work to emerge from your divorce a more refined version of yourself, ready to step into your new story.

Topics Covered

What the 12 Step Divorce Recovery Program is based on

The typical challenges we all face in divorce
How step 1 and step 2 of the program help create emotional healing

What it looks like to curb the conflict in divorce so you can make proactive, constructive decisions
Why people resist healing the heart

The key to regaining control in any situation

How looking at your story differently is the catalyst for change

Why each step in the 12 step program plays a part in navigating a calm, clear, confident divorce

Why step 9 (overcome pain) is most important for moving ahead

How tuning into your intuitive knowing can help you make better decisions for the life you want

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Grief, Gratitude, and Helping Children Navigate Divorce With Ann Papayoti

Katherine Miller — Fri, 25 Feb 2022 16:09:22 +0000

EP: 171

Ann Papayoti

Grief, Gratitude, and Helping Children Navigate Divorce

Divorce Dialogues · Grief, Gratitude, and Helping Children Navigate Divorce With Ann Papayoti

Divorce is hard. The emotions of the breakup colliding with the legal business is a lot for people to manage mentally. What’s really complicated is when people get too wrapped up in their divorce and fail to see their children’s pain.

But what is the best way to talk to children about divorce? What do they struggle with the most throughout the separation process?

Ann Papayoti is an international life, leadership and relationship coach, as well as a speaker, educator, and co-author of The Gift of Shift, an intimate self-help book about creating a new outlook on life. She is the founder of SkyView Coaching, where she helps people rise above their most challenging moments so they can thrive once again.

On this episode of Divorce Dialogues, Ann joins Katherine to explain the four main things children really want from their parents after a divorce. They discuss the complicated emotions children feel and how parents can make it as easy as possible for their kids to navigate a divorce.

Listen in as Ann shares her experience with divorce that led to becoming a life coach, the relationship between grief and gratitude, and the importance of becoming your own best friend.

Topics Covered

The difference between a divorce coach and a breakup coach

Keeping the emotion of the breakup out of the business of the divorce

The 4 things children want from their parents after a divorce

How parents often fail to show up for their kids emotionally after a divorce

The importance of communication between the child and the parent during and after the separation between the two parents

How children end up in the middle of the communication between parents getting divorced

The relationship between grief and gratitude

Ann’s book and her personal experiences with divorce, grief, and becoming her own best friend

Dealing with betrayal and the importance of trusting yourself

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The Gift of Shift: Discover the Key Within to Unlock Your Best Life by Tracey MacDonald and Ann Papayoti

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Maintaining Friendships After a Divorce With Terry Gaspard

Katherine Miller — Fri, 11 Feb 2022 20:44:56 +0000

EP: 170

Terry Gaspard

Maintaining Friendships After a Divorce

Divorce Dialogues · Maintaining Friendships After a Divorce With Terry Gaspard

Why is it that some friendships don’t survive divorce?

When a marriage ends, some friends feel like they have to take sides. Others are overwhelmed and simply don’t know what to say. But if you’re willing to move through a little awkwardness, you can keep the friendships that matter to you after a divorce.

Terry Gaspard, MSW, LICSW, is a licensed therapist with an expertise in supporting children, adults, couples and families through divorce recovery. She is also the founder of Moving Past Divorce and author of The Remarriage Manual: How to Make Everything Work Better the Second Time Around, the 2020 winner of the American Book Fest’s Best Book Award for Self-Help: Relationships.

On this episode of the podcast, Terry joins Katherine to share the four key reasons why some friendships don’t survive a divorce. She discusses the common misunderstanding that life is ruined by divorce, describing what it looks like to reclaim aspects of yourself that you abandoned in an unhappy marriage. Listen in for Terry’s insight on finding a new partner post-divorce (without repeating the same mistakes) and learn how to maintain the friendships that are important to you after a divorce.

Topics Covered

How Terry got interested in the work of divorce recovery and remarriage

The common misunderstanding that your life is ruined by divorce

What it looks like to reclaim aspects of yourself that you abandoned in an unhappy marriage

The top 4 reasons why some friendships don’t survive divorce

What it’s like for Terry to compare her personal experience with that of her clients

How to maintain the friendships that are important to you after a divorce

Why people self-isolate to avoid pity or social awkwardness during a divorce

Best practices for finding a new partner after divorce (without repeating the same mistakes)

Why intentional communication is crucial in creating a successful stepfamily

Terry’s best advice for practicing positive communication

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How to Transform Your Self-Esteem After a Divorce With Carol Davidson

Katherine Miller — Fri, 28 Jan 2022 17:39:34 +0000

EP: 169

Carol Davidson

How to Transform Your Self-Esteem After a Divorce

Divorce Dialogues · How to Transform Your Self-Esteem After a Divorce With Carol Davidson

Divorce can be extremely depleting and a time where most people find their self esteem to be at its lowest. Though, it can also be an opportunity to become the best version of ourselves. So, how can we get back to feeling good for ourselves after a divorce?

Carol Davidson is a seasoned and certified image consultant, life coach, speaker, and educator who has helped thousands of people over the last 20 years to transform their appearance, wardrobe and self-esteem. She consults with private and corporate clients worldwide, offering a full suite of image consulting, personal styling, and life coaching services.

On this episode of Divorce Dialogues, Carol joins Katherine to share her tips and tools to not only become comfortable and confident in your own skin. She explains what image consulting is and how clothing has the power to impact how you feel about yourself, affecting your moods, confidence and performance. Listen in for Carole’s insight on how to look and feel your best inside and out, even after a divorce.

Topics Covered

What an image consultant does and why people seek out for one

How your inside can impact your outside and vise versa

How Carol got into image consulting

Tools that Carol uses when helping clients transform how they feel inside and out

Why image consulting doesn’t involve a “makeover”

How to get started in building your confidence following a divorce

Signs that it’s time to get an image consultant

The differences between an Image Consultant VS a Personal Stylist

Tips for a wardrobe refresh post divorce

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Divorce Dialogues · Creating a Healthy Monogamous or Consensually Non-monogamous Life With Dr. Joli Hamilton

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Creating a Healthy Monogamous or Consensually Non-monogamous Life With Dr. Joli Hamilton

Katherine Miller — Sat, 15 Jan 2022 00:27:13 +0000

EP: 168

Dr. Joli Hamilton

Creating a Healthy Monogamous or Consensually Non-monogamous Life

You can be in a relationship without settling for a boring life and sacrificing your desire for stability and depth of connection. Instead, there are ways to bring a creative approach to your relationship and life as a whole, resulting in years of love and happiness.

Dr. Joli Hamilton is a relationship coach, research psychologist, TEDx speaker, and AASECT certified sex educator who coaches people and couples who color outside the lines, helping them create partnerships that are custom-built for their authentic selves. Joli is also the author of the best-selling book Project Relationship: The Entrepreneur’s Action Plan for Passionate, Sustainable Love.

On this episode of Divorce Dialogues, Dr. Joli joins Katherine to share how to create a creatively monogamous or consensually non-monogamous life. She explains how to keep a healthy and trustworthy relationship and why a non-monogamous relationship can be a helpful option for people. Listen in for Dr. Joli’s insight on creating an enjoyable and sustainable relationship, whether it be monogamous or non-monogamous, and learn which option is best for you.

Topics Covered

How Dr. Joli got into this field after going through a divorce herself

What Dr. Joli has learned from her personal experiences

Dr. Joli’s insight on marriage counseling

How flexibility in a relationship can be key for some people

The power in having self-trust in a relationship

How to have conversations that don’t drive you and your partner apart

Where people get stuck in an unconventional relationship

The research behind people with a non-monogamous lifestyle

Dr. Joli’s advice on transitioning to a creative relationship

How Dr. Joli defines success in a relationship

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Divorce Dialogues · Making the Holidays Magical for Your Children After a Divorce With Dr. Kathryn Smerling

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Making the Holidays Magical for Your Children After a Divorce With Dr. Kathryn Smerling

Katherine Miller — Fri, 03 Dec 2021 23:54:47 +0000

EP: 165

Dr. Kathryn Smerling

Making the Holidays Magical for Your Children After a Divorce

The holidays are a particularly challenging time for divorced parents.

How do we navigate our own feelings of loss without passing that heartache onto our children? Can we create new traditions and still make the holidays a magical time for our kids?

Dr. Kathryn Smerling is an educator and psychologist with a Ph.D. from Fordham University and Master’s from Cornell. She started her career as an early childhood educator, creating the Instep curriculum for preschoolers in the State of New Mexico before completing the psychoanalytic program at the National Institute for Psychotherapies. Dr. Smerling has maintained a private practice as a family therapist in Manhattan since 1998, and she holds certificates in Divorce Mediation, Divorce Collaboration and Relational Therapy.

On this episode of Divorce Dialogues, Dr. Smerling joins Katherine to explain what divorced parents can do to navigate feelings of loss during the holidays and find new ways to celebrate with their children. She discusses why it’s crucial for coparents to be collaborative and offers advice on how to approach holiday planning with a difficult ex-spouse. Listen in for Dr. Smerling’s insight around religion as a source of conflict for coparents during the holidays and learn how to talk to your children about creating new traditions after a divorce.

Topics Covered

What divorced parents can do to navigate feelings of loss during the holidays

Dr. Smerling’s advice on finding new ways to celebrate the holidays after a divorce

Why it’s crucial for coparents to be flexible and collaborative re: holiday plans

Why Dr. Smerling suggests including children in creating new traditions

The pros and cons of alternating holidays and examples of creative alternatives

How to approach holiday planning with a high-conflict ex-spouse

Using the BIFF system (Brief, Informative, Firm and Friendly) to communicate with a difficult coparent

How religion can be a source a conflict for divorced parents around the holidays

The role a parenting coordinator can play in making holiday plans

Dr. Smerling’s advice for divorced parents facing the holidays for the first time

The Blueprint for a Better Divorce With Paulette Rigo

Katherine Miller — Fri, 05 Nov 2021 15:10:40 +0000

EP: 163

Paulette Rigo

The Blueprint for a Better Divorce

Divorce Dialogues · The Blueprint for a Better Divorce With Paulette Rigo

Technology makes it easy for divorcing couples to express their anger and frustration without thinking. They engage in text warfare and even post disparaging comments on social media.

But if the goal is to divorce with dignity, the way you communicate matters. So, what can you do to be less reactive and work through the entire process in a measured way?

Paulette Rigo is the founder of Better Divorce Academy, a platform dedicated to helping people create an optimal divorce experience. Paulette is also a Certified Divorce Coach, Mediator, Transition and Recovery Coach, Career Transition Specialist and author of the Amazon bestseller, Better Divorce Blueprint: Divorce Made Smoother, Easier and Better for You and Your Family.

On this episode of Divorce Dialogues, Paulette joins Katherine to explore the contemplation phase leading up to a divorce and explain how to decide whether divorce is right for you. She describes what a successful divorce looks like and offers insight into the most common mistakes women make in the early stages of divorce. Listen in for Paulette’s advice on choosing the right divorce process and learn how to communicate with your soon-to-be ex in a way that mitigates conflict and maintains your dignity.

Topics Covered

How to decide if divorce is right for you

What steps to take in the pre-divorce contemplation phase

Why Paulette’s own divorce turned into an 8-year litigated experience

What a successful divorce looks like

Conducting yourself in a way you feel good about throughout the divorce process

The common mistakes women make in the early stages of divorce

Why you should never send a text or post on social media when you’re angry

The BIFF strategy for communicating with a soon-to-be ex

The role trust plays in a successful mediation

How to choose the right divorce process

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Creating a New Identity After Divorce With Christine Pittman

Katherine Miller — Fri, 08 Oct 2021 14:59:38 +0000

EP: 161

Christine Pittman

Creating a New Identity After Divorce

Divorce Dialogues · Creating a New Identity After Divorce With Christine Pittman

For most stay-at-home parents, identity gets wrapped up in their kids. So, what happens when they divorce? How do former stay-at-home moms and dads figure out who they are on their own?

Christine Pittman is the Founder of Cook the Story, one of the top-ranked food blogs in the world. She moved from Canada to the US in 2010 with her now ex-husband and started her food blog as a hobby while she was a stay-at-home mom. In the divorce process, Christine grew the blog into a thriving business, and today, her recipes reach 2M-plus monthly readers, helping them spend less time in the kitchen and more time at the table.

On this episode of the podcast, Christine joins Katherine to share her experience in the adjustment period after divorce and describe how building Cook the Story supported her in the process of divorce recovery. She offers advice on letting go of control when your kids are with your ex, challenging us to pick our battles and model good behaviors for our children. Listen in for insight on introducing a new partner to your kids and learn how to look at divorce as an opportunity to discover who you are and what you want out of life!

Topics Covered

How Christine’s food blog became a full-time business through her divorce

Leveraging creative pursuits to support the process of divorce recovery

Christine’s experience with figuring out who she was on her own in the adjustment period after divorce

Christine’s advice around letting go of control when your kids are with your ex

Why Christine suggests picking your battles with your ex

How Christine thinks about modeling good behaviors for her children

Why Christine’s new partner avoids disciplining her children

How Christine and her ex-husband are working to be on the same page when it comes to discipline

How Christine, her new partner and her ex-husband navigate holidays

Christine’s insight on how divorce can be an opportunity for self-discovery

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