moving forward – Divorce Dialogues https://divorcedialogues.com A Podcast on Collaborative Divorce Fri, 13 May 2022 18:18:21 +0000 en-US hourly 1 https://wordpress.org/?v=5.9.3 https://divorcedialogues.com/wp-content/uploads/2018/03/cropped-DivorceDialogues-Diamond-Favicon-1-32x32.png moving forward – Divorce Dialogues https://divorcedialogues.com 32 32 Step One on the Path to Happily Divorced with India Kern https://divorcedialogues.com/step-one-on-the-path-to-happily-divorced-with-india-kern/?utm_source=rss&utm_medium=rss&utm_campaign=step-one-on-the-path-to-happily-divorced-with-india-kern https://divorcedialogues.com/step-one-on-the-path-to-happily-divorced-with-india-kern/#respond Wed, 22 Jul 2020 01:00:55 +0000 https://divorcedialogues.com/?p=968 EP: 130 India Kern Step One on the Path to Happily Divorced KatherineMiller · Step One on the Path to Happily Divorced with India Kern If you’ve been blindsided by an unwanted divorce, the prospect of feeling joy again one day may seem impossible. But if you’re willing to do the work, you CAN choose […]

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India Kern

Step One on the Path to Happily Divorced


If you’ve been blindsided by an unwanted divorce, the prospect of feeling joy again one day may seem impossible. But if you’re willing to do the work, you CAN choose better over bitter and take the first steps on the path to happily divorced.

India Kern is the Divorce Recovery Mentor behind India Kern Coaching, a practice dedicated to guiding clients through the transition from married to happily divorced. She specializes in working with people who feel stuck in their divorce pain, helping them gain confidence, build a sense of security, and find joy again. India is also the author of Surviving the Unwanted Divorce: Discover a Purpose-Driven Life After the Devastation of Divorce.

On this episode of Divorce Dialogues, India joins Katherine to share what it means to be happily divorced and explain how she learned who she was after her own marriage ended. She describes what uncertainty does to the mind, body and soul, challenging us to take inventory of our physical, emotional and spiritual health as a counterbalance to the fear of divorce. Listen in for India’s insight on moving through the grief in order to heal and learn how to take your first step on the path to happily divorced!

Topics Covered

How India’s own painful divorce inspired her career as a divorce coach

India’s description of what it means to be happily divorced

Why women who define themselves through other people are rocked by divorce

How to ‘welcome yourself back home’ in the aftermath of divorce

The value in keeping a journal to track your progress + clarify your thoughts

What fear and uncertainty does to your mind, body and soul

The three areas of focus that help counterbalance the fear of divorce

  1. Physical health
  2. Emotional wellbeing
  3. Spiritual life

Why moving through your grief is necessary in order to heal

How grief comes back up if you don’t deal with it effectively

The first step to get you started on the path to happily divorced

Connect with India Kern

India’s Website

Email connect@indiakern.com

Connect with Katherine Miller

The Center for Understanding Conflict

Miller Law Group

Katherine on LinkedIn

The New Yorker’s Guide to Collaborative Divorce by Katherine Miller

Email katherine@miller-law.com

Call (914) 738-7765

Resources

Surviving the Unwanted Divorce: Discover a Purpose-Driven Life After the Devastation of Divorce by India L. Kern

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Dr. Bonnie Eaker-Weil

Get Closure with Your Ex & Divorce with Dignity


To divorce with dignity, couples need closure. Until we’ve said goodbye to the relationship, we simply can’t let go of the blame and shame of the breakup and reach a peaceful resolution. But what does that look like? How can we work through the grief early on, so that we don’t end up having very expensive arguments in an attorney’s office?

A relationship expert with four decades in private practice, Dr. Bonnie Eaker-Weil is widely recognized as one of America’s best couples therapists. She is the bestselling author of several books, including Make Up, Don’t Break Up: Finding and Keeping Love for Singles and Couples and Adultery: The Forgivable Sin. Dr. Bonnie has appeared on Good Morning America, The Today Show and Oprah, and her work has been featured in The New York Times and New York Magazine, among many other publications.

On this episode, Dr. Bonnie joins Katherine to explain why it’s crucial to say goodbye to an old relationship before you can say hello to a new one and describe how children express what couples suppress in the divorce process. Dr. Bonnie also shares the top mistakes divorcing couples make, describing how she helps couples leave WITHOUT blame or shame. Listen in for Dr. Bonnie’s insight on getting closure when your ex won’t cooperate and learn why the temporary pain of an intentional goodbye is so much better than playing out the emotional battle in a lawyer’s office!

Topics Covered

Dr. Bonnie’s insight that children express what couples suppress

Why it’s crucial to say goodbye to your old relationship

Getting closure with your ex before you enter the lawyer’s office

How to get closure and leave WITHOUT blame or shame

The top mistakes people make in the divorce process

  1. Sidestep conflict (peace at any price)
  2. Avoid ex-spouse
  3. Brady Bunch expectations
  4. Badmouth, criticize ex

Why the temporary pain of closure is preferable to avoidance

How to get closure for yourself if your ex refuses to cooperate

The magic in connecting with your ex in a different way

Why Dr. Bonnie sees adultery as the forgivable sin

Navigating the ‘power struggle’ stage of a romantic relationship

Connect with Dr. Bonnie Eaker-Weil

Dr. Bonnie Eaker-Weil’s Website

Call (212) 606-3787

Connect with Katherine Miller

The Center for Understanding Conflict

Miller Law Group

Katherine on LinkedIn

The New Yorker’s Guide to Collaborative Divorce by Katherine Miller

Email katherine@miller-law.com

Call (914) 738-7765

Resources

Free Chapter of Dr. Bonnie’s Book

Make Up, Don’t Break Up: Finding and Keeping Love for Singles and Couples by Dr. Bonnie Eaker-Weil and Harville Hendrix

Adultery: The Forgivable Sin by Dr. Bonnie Eaker-Weil

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]]> https://divorcedialogues.com/get-closure-with-your-ex-divorce-with-dignity-with-dr-bonnie-eaker-weil/feed/ 0 Navigating the Four Stages of Divorce with Liza Caldwell https://divorcedialogues.com/navigating-the-four-stages-of-divorce-with-liza-caldwell/?utm_source=rss&utm_medium=rss&utm_campaign=navigating-the-four-stages-of-divorce-with-liza-caldwell https://divorcedialogues.com/navigating-the-four-stages-of-divorce-with-liza-caldwell/#respond Thu, 26 Jul 2018 01:00:10 +0000 https://divorcedialogues.com/?p=586 EP: 078 Liza Caldwell Navigating the Four Stages of Divorce If you’re reading this, you are likely familiar with the first stage of the divorce process, the stage Liza Caldwell identifies as Something is Wrong. The problem with stage one is that you can get stuck there, lost in a vicious cycle with your own […]

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Liza Caldwell

Navigating the Four Stages of Divorce


If you’re reading this, you are likely familiar with the first stage of the divorce process, the stage Liza Caldwell identifies as Something is Wrong. The problem with stage one is that you can get stuck there, lost in a vicious cycle with your own thoughts. How do you move forward? Where can you go for support in taking action? And what resources are available to help you reinvent yourself once the divorce is final?

Liza Caldwell is the co-founder and director of SAS for Women: Support and Solutions for Thriving Beyond Divorce, an organization that provides resources and coaching for women who are considering, in the process of, or recovering from divorce. Liza earned her MA in gender and leadership development from Columbia University’s Teachers College, and she is a certified professional coach trained through Leadership That Works.

Today, Liza joins Katherine to explain how she came to co-found SAS for Women. She shares the four-stage divorce roadmap that SAS uses to help women manage their expectations and navigate each phase of the journey. Liza and Katherine discuss what makes a good candidate for collaborative divorce and how the model you choose directly impacts the children involved. Listen in to understand the ongoing process of reinvention that occurs after the papers are signed and learn how SAS can support you in achieving a new normal in the aftermath of divorce.

Topics Covered

How SAS provides support and solutions for women in any stage of divorce

The SAS for Women four-stage divorce roadmap

  1. Something is wrong
  2. Something’s got to change
  3. Something is changing
  4. The new normal

How women in stage one are caught in a vicious cycle

The trigger in stage one that compels women to take action

The importance of connecting with seasoned experts during stage two

What makes a good candidate for the collaborative divorce process

How the model you choose for divorce directly impacts your children

The value in working with a coach to get an overview of available options

The discovery process and reinvention involved in stage three

How stage four brings you to the peaceful rhythm of a new normal

Connect with Liza Caldwell

SAS For Women

SAS on Twitter

SAS on Facebook

Connect with Katherine Miller

The Center for Understanding Conflict

Miller Law Group

Katherine on LinkedIn

The New Yorker’s Guide to Collaborative Divorce by Katherine Miller

Email katherine@miller-law.com

Call (914) 738-7765

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