Nesting & Other Child-Centered Parenting Plans With Dr. Ann Buscho

Katherine Miller — Fri, 13 Aug 2021 18:12:53 +0000

EP: 157

Dr. Ann Buscho

Nesting & Other Child-Centered Parenting Plans With Dr. Ann Buscho

Divorce Dialogues · Nesting & Other Child-Centered Parenting Plans With Dr. Ann Buscho

Kids don’t get a say in whether or not their parents divorce. And yet, it’s often the children who bear the brunt of the disruption. One strategy for minimizing the upheaval in your kids’ lives is a parenting arrangement known as birdnesting. But what does a successful nesting plan look like? And how do divorcing couples navigate this kind of arrangement successfully?

Dr. Ann Buscho is a licensed clinical psychologist specializing in family issues related to divorce, parenting, parenting plans and co-parenting counseling. Dr. Buscho has both personal and professional experience with nesting, co-parenting, step-parenting and single-parenting, and she is the author of The Parent’s Guide to Birdnesting: A Child-Centered Solution to Co-Parenting During Separation and Divorce.

On this episode of Divorce Dialogues, Dr. Buscho joins Katherine to explain what a birdnesting parenting arrangement looks like and why it’s particularly helpful in the early stages of separation and divorce. She shares the top three things to consider in designing a parenting plan, offering advice on maximizing the child’s time with each parent and making the transitions as smooth as possible. Listen in for Dr. Buscho’s insight on minimizing your child’s exposure to conflict and learn what divorcing couples need to do to nest successfully.

Topics Covered

What a birdnesting arrangement looks like and how it works

Why nesting is particularly helpful in the early stages of separation and divorce

How nesting is usually transitional but can also be a long-term solution

Why explicit agreements are key to making a nesting arrangement go smoothly

How COVID forced many divorcing couples into nesting

Dr. Buscho’s top 3 things to consider in designing a parenting plan

The continuum from parallel parenting to collaborative co-parenting

Why parallel parenting is better than exposing kids to conflict

Dr. Buscho’s insight on maximizing the child’s time with each parent

How to make the transition between parents smoother for children of divorce

What divorcing couples need to do to nest successfully

Connect with Dr. Ann Buscho

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Connect with Katherine Miller

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Resources

The Parent’s Guide to Birdnesting: A Child-Centered Solution to Co-Parenting During Separation and Divorce by Ann Gold Buscho, PhD

Dr. John Gottman

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Going Back to Work After a Divorce with Ruth Beltran

Katherine Miller — Tue, 30 Jun 2015 01:00:29 +0000

EP: 002

Ruth Beltran

Going Back to Work After a Divorce

If you are reentering the workforce in the aftermath of divorce, it is likely that you feel overwhelmed and angry over what you’re giving up. You may not even be sure what you’re good at anymore or where your interests lie. Ruth Beltran contends that going back to work provides an opportunity to express who you are and contribute to the community, and she is on a mission to help people find their passion—and monetize it.

Ruth Beltran is a career counselor with 30-plus years of experience coaching professionals in transition. As a licensed Mental Health Counselor and Career & Executive Development professional, Ruth combines psychological insight with an extensive background as a Fortune 500 line executive and HR professional for major corporate career services programs. She earned her master’s in psychology from Fordham University and an MBA in Organizational Behavior from NYU.

Today, Ruth sits down with Katherine to share her passion for helping people understand the value of work as an avenue for self-expression. She explains why it’s difficult to sustain a commitment to work in the absence of interest and how to identify your skill set, even if you’ve been out of the workforce for an extended period. Ruth offers advice on balancing work and parenthood, addressing the inevitable tradeoffs and discussing how to prepare your kids to take on some of the household responsibilities. Listen in for Ruth’s insight around the negative connotation of the word ‘job’ and learn why it’s more useful to consider purposeful ‘work.’