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Be Your Best Self in the Divorce Process with Nancy Steiner

Katherine Miller — Wed, 29 Apr 2020 01:00:47 +0000

EP: 124

Nancy Steiner

Be Your Best Self in the Divorce Process

KatherineMiller · Be Your Best Self in the Divorce Process with Nancy Steiner

The stress of a divorce can bring out the worst in us. Emotions are heightened, and we revert to our most-regressed selves. But it doesn’t have to be this way. You can commit to staying in a place of kindness and compassion, whether or not your ex reciprocates, and achieve a better result.

Nancy Steiner is the Founder and President of Steiner Coaching Solutions, a practice dedicated to helping people achieve higher levels of potential, creativity and confidence. Nancy spent 40 years producing documentary films and nonfiction network television, telling stories that offered a deeper understanding of the human condition. In 2018, a health crisis inspired Nancy’s transition to coaching, a career that allows her to connect more deeply with people one-on-one.

On this episode of Divorce Dialogues, Nancy joins Katherine to explain how a coach can help you make decisions about who you want to be in the divorce process. She discusses the benefits of taking the high road, sharing what she did to stay grounded in her best self through her own divorce. Listen in for Nancy’s insight on making a blended family work and learn how a coach can empower you to build the life you want—during and after divorce.

Topics Covered

What inspired Nancy’s transition from documentary filmmaker to coach

How Nancy helps clients create their own narrative and move their lives forward

Learning who you want to be in the divorce process

Why it’s so easy to become our most-regressed selves in the divorce process

The benefit of holding to your best self through a divorce

How a good coach helps you find the answers within yourself

The questions a coach might ask to help you stay grounded in your best self

What to do when you catch yourself regressing to your worst self

How Nancy defines a blended family and what a successful blended family looks like

Why very different parenting styles make a blended family more challenging

Connect with Nancy Steiner

Steiner Coaching Solutions

Connect with Katherine Miller

The Center for Understanding Conflict

Miller Law Group

Katherine on LinkedIn

The New Yorker’s Guide to Collaborative Divorce by Katherine Miller

Email katherine@miller-law.com

Call (914) 738-7765

Resources

iPEC

Dr. Mark Banschick

The Good Karma Divorce: Avoid Litigation, Turn Negative Emotions Into Positive Actions, and Get On with the Rest of Your Life by Judge Michele Lowrance

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Unlocking Your Destructive Cycle to Stop the Fight with Michelle Brody, Ph.D.

Katherine Miller — Fri, 18 Dec 2015 01:00:10 +0000

EP: 014

Michelle Brody

Unlocking Your Destructive Cycle to Stop the Fight

Though the details are different, most couples argue about the same old issues: Money. Sex. Household responsibilities. But the true root of the problem stems from the feelings of hurt that inspire a defensive reaction and perpetuate a destructive cycle of conflict. So, how do you stop the fight? Is there a better way to respond to hurt that will allow you and your partner to engage in solving the problem together?

Michelle Brody is a clinical psychologist and couples coach who specializes in resolving relational conflict. With 20-plus years in the practice, Michelle is dedicated to helping couples unlock their destructive cycles and implement a more productive communication style. She is also the author of Stop the Fight: How to Break Free From the 12 Most Common Arguments and Build a Relationship That Lasts.

Today, Michelle joins Katherine to share some of the most common arguments between couples discussed in her book, Stop the Fight. She explains the elemental social threats that ignite our fight-or-flight instincts and offers her take on the complexity of defining ‘right and wrong’ in polarized arguments. Listen in for Michelle’s insight around recognizing your contribution to a defensive pattern, choosing a core response, and recruiting your partner to engage in solving the issue together.