Alyssa Dineen

What You Need to Know About Dating After Divorce

Dating after divorce is intimidating, especially for those of us who never dreamed we’d be looking for love online. So, how do you know when you’re ready to get back into the dating scene? How do you choose the right app? And how do you build a profile that reflects the best version of you?

Alyssa Dineen is the dating coach and personal stylist behind Style My Profile, a consulting agency that helps clients feel better about online dating. Style My Profile is a first-of-its-kind service that offers 1:1 profile help and wardrobe consultation as well as a Mindful Dating Workshop and Membership Program. Alyssa’s has 20-plus years of styling expertise, and her work has been featured on the Today Show, NBC and The New York Times, among many other national media outlets.

On this episode of the podcast, Alyssa joins Katherine to discuss dating after divorce, encouraging us to look at online dating as a language we can pick up with a little practice. She explains why staying in an unhappy marriage is not good for anyone (including your kids) and challenges us to make sure we’re ready to date before we go online. Listen in for Alyssa’s insight on choosing the right dating app for you and get her top tips for putting together an intentional, creative online dating profile.

Topics Covered

Why staying in an unhappy marriage is not good for anyone (including your kids)

How to get past feeling intimidated about dating after a divorce

The importance of modeling a happy, functional relationship for your children

Alyssa’s take on online dating as a new language that you can pick up with practice

How to find the right dating app for you based on age, lifestyle and where you live

Alyssa’s argument for online dating vs. meeting someone in real life

Alyssa’s advice around making sure you’re ready to date again before you create a profile

Why it’s crucial to put effort and creativity into your profile pictures and bio

Why casual photos of you doing things in real life are better than studio shots

How Alyssa serves clients who need support with online dating

Connect with Alyssa Dineen

Style My Profile

Connect with Katherine Miller

The Center for Understanding Conflict

Miller Law Group

Katherine on LinkedIn

The New Yorker’s Guide to Collaborative Divorce by Katherine Miller

Email katherine@miller-law.com

Call (914) 738-7765

Resources

Alyssa on Divorce Dialogues EP099

Alyssa’s 12-Week Mindful Dating Webinar

Alyssa’s Dynamic Dating Membership Program

Match

Bumble

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Fiona Eckersley

Learning to Move On After Midlife Divorce

Divorce is difficult enough. But if you’ve been married for many years and your identity is wrapped up in your role as a partner and parent, the process can be even more fraught. What makes midlife divorce particularly challenging? And how do you move on from a relationship that defined you for so long?

Fiona Eckersley is the Confidence Coach and Divorce Recovery Expert behind Find Your Fabulous, a coaching practice that helps women in their forties and beyond heal after divorce. She is also the creator of the Fabulous and Thriving Midlife Divorce Program and author of the Amazon bestseller Fearful to Fabulous: Unlock Your Power, Move On, and Thrive After Midlife Divorce.

On this episode, Fiona joins Katherine to discuss the particular challenges associated with midlife divorce. She explains what it means to unlock your power in the aftermath of divorce, offering strategies for quieting negative self-talk and recognizing the truth of who you really are. Listen in for Fiona’s 7-step process for moving on after midlife divorce and learn why it’s crucial to do the inner work before you repartner.

Topics Covered

The particular challenges that come with midlife divorce

What it means to unlock your power after a divorce

Quieting negative self-talk with the truth of who you really are

How Fiona’s experience with midlife divorce informs her work

What Fiona did to build a support system after divorce

The destructive coping mechanisms Fiona sees in her work

Fiona’s 7-step process for moving on after midlife divorce

1. Stop focusing on what life was supposed to be
2. Face the financial realities
3. Eliminate bad habits
4. Release anger and reframe emotions
5. Replace negative self-talk with positive dialogue
6. Examine how relationships have changed
7. Establish goals and create a pathway

Why it’s crucial to do the inner work before we repartner

Connect with Fiona Eckersley

Find Your Fabulous

Email fiona@findfabulouswithfiona.com

Schedule a Call with Fiona

Free Download of Fearful to Fabulous

Connect with Katherine Miller

The Center for Understanding Conflict

Miller Law Group

Katherine on LinkedIn

The New Yorker’s Guide to Collaborative Divorce by Katherine Miller

Email katherine@miller-law.com

Call (914) 738-7765

Resources

Fearful to Fabulous: Unlock Your Power, Move On, and Thrive After Midlife Divorce by Fiona Eckersley

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Bernadette Smith

A Me-First Approach to Dating After Divorce

So, you’re ready to start dating again after divorce, but you don’t want to make the same mistakes as last time. How can you do an autopsy on your marriage to understand what worked and what didn’t? How can you get clear on who YOU are and what you’re looking for in a partner? How can you find a compatible connection and then establish a loving relationship that lasts?

Bernadette Smith is the creator of Compatible Connections, a boutique coaching firm that specializes in helping divorced women become confident, conscious daters. With 10-plus years of experience as a certified dating and relationship expert, Bernadette is dedicated to helping every woman she works with find the love of her life after divorce.

On this episode of the podcast, Bernadette joins Katherine to explain how she defines compatibility and what you can do to screen for it before a first date. She shares the importance of getting clear on who you are and what you want in a relationship, offering insight on how to partner with yourself FIRST. Bernadette also addresses online dating, giving her top tips for avoiding scams and discussing how she supports clients every step of the way. Listen in to understand how to identify the character traits you want in a partner and learn how regular relationship checkups can keep your partnership growing!

Topics Covered

The definition of compatibility and how to screen for it

The value in doing an autopsy on your marriage

Why it’s crucial to get clear on your reason for dating

Bernadette’s insight on partnering with yourself first

Bernadette’s approach to regular relationship checkups

• What I love about you is…
• When you … I feel …, and I would like …

Identifying the character traits you want in a partner

Good connecting questions to ask potential partners

How Bernadette supports clients in online dating

Bernadette’s advice around online dating

• Never give phone number to stranger
• Create separate email address

Bernadette’s take on the basis of a loving relationship

• Respect, honesty, trust and communication

Connect with Bernadette Smith

Compatible Connections

Connect with Katherine Miller

The Center for Understanding Conflict

Miller Law Group

Katherine on LinkedIn

The New Yorker’s Guide to Collaborative Divorce by Katherine Miller

Email katherine@miller-law.com

Call (914) 738-7765

Resources

Burner App

Google Voice

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Dr. Alexandra Solomon

Dating After Divorce

If you’ve been out of the dating game for a while now, the landscape may seem like a brave new world. Dating apps offer endless possibilities—and overwhelm. Not to mention the fact that you are sorting through your own feelings after a divorce and working to reshape your very identity. It’s complicated to say the least.

Dr. Alexandra Solomon is a licensed clinical psychologist at The Family Institute at Northwestern University. She is regular blogger for Psychology Today and the author of Loving Bravely: Twenty Lessons of Self-Discovery to Help You Get the Love You Want. Dr. Solomon is a renowned speaker and media consultant on topics related to love, sex and marriage, and she has appeared on the Oprah Winfrey Network, The Today Show and NPR, among many others.

Dr. Solomon joins Katherine to discuss how dating has evolved in recent years with the emergence of apps geared to finding love. She explains why it’s important to work through the story of your marriage and focus on yourself before you return to the dating world. Dr. Solomon offers her best advice around dating after divorce, describing the value in processing these experiences on your own before you debrief with a friend. Listen in for Dr. Solomon’s take on sexual experiences that nurture connection as well as her view on casual sex for the newly single.

Topics Covered

The use of technology to find love

Dr. Solomon’s guidance around dating apps

• No obligation to use
• Slow and steady
• Means to an end

How to cut through the ‘chorus of opinions’ and check in with yourself

How therapy can help you work through the story of your marriage

The risks around ‘getting stuck in the heartbreak’

Dr. Solomon’s tips for dating after divorce

• Practice self-compassion
• Process experience on your own

The natural tendency to look for a romantic partner and co-parent

Why it’s dangerous to think in terms of absolutes

Dr. Solomon’s insight on sexual experiences that nurture connection

Dr. Solomon’s take on casual sex for the newly single

Connect with Dr. Alexandra Solomon

Dr. Solomon’s Website

Resources

Loving Bravely: Twenty Lessons of Self-Discovery to Help You Get the Love You Want by Dr. Alexandra Solomon

Smart Dating Academy

Connect with Katherine Miller

The Center for Understanding Conflict
Miller Law Group
Katherine on LinkedIn

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