Dating After Divorce – Divorce Dialogues

Profile Styling for Online Daters After Divorce with Alyssa Dineen

Katherine Miller — Wed, 15 May 2019 01:00:37 +0000

EP: 099

Alyssa Dineen

Profile Styling for Online Daters After Divorce

Getting back into the dating scene after a divorce can be challenging, especially if you never dreamed you’d be looking for love on an app. How do you write a compelling bio? How do you choose pictures that will lead to quality matches? What do you wear on a date, especially if your style hasn’t changed in years? Where can you go for help navigating the online dating process?

Alyssa Dineen is the founder of Style My Profile, a consulting agency that helps clients improve their online dating profiles with the support of a professional stylist. Style My Profile is a first-of-its-kind service, offering profile help, wardrobe consultation, and photography packages. Alyssa has 20 years of experience in the fashion industry and serves as a freelance stylist for national publications including Glamour and Real Simple.

Today, Alyssa joins Katherine to explain how her own experience with online dating inspired the creation of Style My Profile. She shares her professional advice around writing a compelling bio, selecting profile pictures, and upping your style game. Alyssa also weighs in on the value of having your experiences validated and describes her own challenges with online dating after divorce. Listen in for Alyssa’s insight on ‘owning your level of style savvy’ and learn how to choose a wardrobe that is flattering and comfortable for you!

Topics Covered

Alyssa’s 13 years of experience as a professional stylist

The most common style mistakes people make

Alyssa’s tricks for writing a compelling online dating bio

Think outside box, avoid sounding like résumé
Get specific (run marathons vs. active)

The Style My Profile offerings (profile, wardrobe + photos)

How Alyssa’s experience with online dating inspired SMP

Why Alyssa compares online dating to learning a language

The value in knowing your dating experiences are normal

How Alyssa collaborates with clients to write their bios

Alyssa’s insight around ‘owning your level of style savvy’

Choosing a wardrobe that is flattering and comfortable

Alyssa’s style advice for people short on time or money

Getting a trusted friend to help edit your closet

Alyssa’s top tips for online dating profile pictures

No blurry pictures
Don’t crop out ex
No sunglasses/hats
Minimum of 5 photos

Connect with Alyssa Dineen

Style My Profile

Email alyssa@stylemyprofilenyc.com

Call (917) 714-1969

Connect with Katherine Miller

The Center for Understanding Conflict

Miller Law Group

Katherine on LinkedIn

The New Yorker’s Guide to Collaborative Divorce by Katherine Miller

Email katherine@miller-law.com

Call (914) 738-7765

Resources

‘Dating Advice for Those Who Never Thought They’d Need Tinder’ in The New York Times

Marie Kondo

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Dating After Divorce with Dr. Alexandra Solomon

Katherine Miller — Sun, 16 Jul 2017 01:00:21 +0000

EP: 051

Dr. Alexandra Solomon

Dating After Divorce

If you’ve been out of the dating game for a while now, the landscape may seem like a brave new world. Dating apps offer endless possibilities—and overwhelm. Not to mention the fact that you are sorting through your own feelings after a divorce and working to reshape your very identity. It’s complicated to say the least.

Dr. Alexandra Solomon is a licensed clinical psychologist at The Family Institute at Northwestern University. She is regular blogger for Psychology Today and the author of Loving Bravely: Twenty Lessons of Self-Discovery to Help You Get the Love You Want. Dr. Solomon is a renowned speaker and media consultant on topics related to love, sex and marriage, and she has appeared on the Oprah Winfrey Network, The Today Show and NPR, among many others.

Dr. Solomon joins Katherine to discuss how dating has evolved in recent years with the emergence of apps geared to finding love. She explains why it’s important to work through the story of your marriage and focus on yourself before you return to the dating world. Dr. Solomon offers her best advice around dating after divorce, describing the value in processing these experiences on your own before you debrief with a friend. Listen in for Dr. Solomon’s take on sexual experiences that nurture connection as well as her view on casual sex for the newly single.

Topics Covered

The use of technology to find love

Dr. Solomon’s guidance around dating apps

No obligation to use
Slow and steady
Means to an end

How to cut through the ‘chorus of opinions’ and check in with yourself

How therapy can help you work through the story of your marriage

The risks around ‘getting stuck in the heartbreak’

Dr. Solomon’s tips for dating after divorce

Practice self-compassion
Process experience on your own

The natural tendency to look for a romantic partner and co-parent

Why it’s dangerous to think in terms of absolutes

Dr. Solomon’s insight on sexual experiences that nurture connection

Dr. Solomon’s take on casual sex for the newly single

Navigating the World of Online Dating After Divorce with Laurie Davis

Katherine Miller — Thu, 27 Aug 2015 01:00:44 +0000

EP: 006

Laurie Davis

Navigating the World of Online Dating After Divorce

How do you know when you’re ready to start dating again? If you’re recently separated or divorced, you may be questioning whether or not it’s the right time to try to meet someone new. And even if you are emotionally prepared to start dating, you may have questions about how the scene has changed since the last time you were single and how exactly to navigate the brave new world of online dating…

Laurie Davis is the Founder and CEO of eFlirt, a custom service that teaches singles how to use the written word to improve their chances of finding love online. Characterized as a ‘think tank for your heart,’ eFlirt has served thousands of clients and boasts 50 marriages and engagements to date. Laurie has been nominated for the title of Best Dating Coach by the iDate Awards two years running, and her advice has been featured in 500-plus media outlets including The New York Times, Good Morning America and Forbes. She is also the author of Love at First Click: The Ultimate Guide to Online Dating.

Today, Laurie joins Katherine to discuss the impetus for eFlirt and how her background in marketing informs her work. She covers the challenges of dating during the divorce process, explaining the difference between being legally versus emotionally divorced. Laurie speaks to the ways that dating has changed in recent years, including the very casual—yet empowering—nature of the process. Listen in for insight around writing a profile that attracts your target audience and seeing every date as an opportunity to learn!