EP: 155 Brian James Divorcing a Narcissist in Mediation Divorce Dialogues · Divorcing a Narcissist in Mediation With Brian James How do you negotiate with someone who has to be right? If you’re divorcing a narcissist, you know that they simply can’t see things from someone else’s point of view. So, how do you come […]
EP: 079 Linda Schoonover Carley Empowering Divorcing Couples to Communicate Through Mediation The heightened emotions that come with divorce often lead to impulsive action. The brain shuts down and couples jump into litigation without considering the consequences—or the alternatives. But the court system takes their power away and hands all of the decisions over to […]
EP: 061 Barry Berkman Pioneering Collaborative Divorce in New York After 15 years of trying divorce cases in the courts, Barry Berkman had come to realize that ‘nobody ever won a divorce case.’ Litigation comes with a high price tag in the form of expense and the toxic effect on everyone involved, especially the children. […]
EP: 058 Sarah Hechtman Process Choice: The How of Divorce Settlement Once you’ve decided on divorce, the next step is to determine how you and your former partner will come to a resolution. Given that 97% of divorces in New York settle before a judge gets involved, it is in your best interests to explore […]
EP: 043 Monique Honaman Taking the High Road Through Collaborative Divorce Reacting with aggression feels good in the moment, powerful even. Perhaps you believe that taking the high road in the divorce process puts you at a disadvantage, making you look weak—as if you’re letting the other person off the hook for their behavior. But […]
EP: 041 Gary Friedman Mediation: Compromise or Negotiation? Most people think of mediation as compromise, but Gary Friedman sees it differently. In his view, the process is a negotiation. Rather than competing over assets, the divorcing partners identify what they need to move forward and then find the best way to divide or allocate resources […]
EP: 036 Wendy Paris Self-Compassion + Collaborative Settlement = Splitopia When Wendy Paris announced her trial separation to her liberal friends in New York City, she was surprised by the incredibly negative feedback she received. But when she unpacked their predictions of doom and gloom, Wendy realized that their fears around divorce derived from the […]
EP: 034 Sue Brunsting A Better Way to Divorce Through the Collaborative Model By 2001, Suzanne Brunsting had been practicing as a matrimonial litigator for 20 years. The more experienced she got, the more difficult and contentious the cases referred to her. Day in, day out, she was witness to the damage endured by families […]
EP: 029 Sam Margulies The Myths of Litigated Divorce & the Benefits of Mediation The parties in a litigated divorce spend years—and tens-of-thousands of dollars—preparing for a trial that is extremely unlikely to happen. This disconnect led to the development of mediation as an option, allowing divorcing couples to work toward settlement without spending unnecessary […]
EP: 019 Stu Webb The Founding Father of Collaborative Divorce In 1990, Minneapolis divorce attorney Stu Webb was burned out and ready to call it a day. He had been practicing family law for 26 years, and he was done with the adversarial nature of litigation. Stu had a plan to quit his law practice, […]